When do you stop giving

In the short story The Moths by Helena Maria Viramontes the 14 year old finds herself really dissapionted at her mom becaause everything that goes on in the house revolves around her husband and she says "when do you stop giving" when do do you stop giving into the beating, giving to others, when do you start giving to yourself, to mama Luna or when do you start giving motherly love to her daughter.